Alysa is my grandlittle and for anyone who was in a sorority (or fraternity) reading this, you know what this means, but if you’ve never been in Greek life than you may not understand. In fact, Grammarly just told tried to correct me and when I highlighted over the word it said “Unknown word” haha! Basically, it means she’s in my sorority family and that we spent a lot of time together through college! Lucky for me, our fun continued after college when she moved back to Richmond! We did almost everything together! From setting up classrooms and class materials to sewing, wine tasting, and even being a practice model for me, it was always nice to have Alysa in the same town to hang out with! Fast forward to now and she is married and has a baby! It’s crazy to think about how much we’ve grown since the days back at JMU.
Nothing gets me more jazzed than talking about my days at summer camp Camp Mont Shenandoah! Singing the songs, reminiscing about old memories and traditions, and wishing for Sunday’s lunch with the BEST fried chicken you’ll ever have. So when Priscilla, one of my counselors from camp, told me that her son Wyatt knew the camp songs and LOVED them – you better believe we started singing them.
We were at Libby Hill Park for our mini session sing/screaming about a girl who is silly enough to trust a crocodile and float him down the Nile river. The best part besides the fact that Wyatt knew the words was that in the part when we sang “Well the croc winked his eye as she waved them all goodbye, wearing a HAPPY SMILE!” Wyatt just BEAMED with this huge smile and CLICK, we got the picture. 🙂 Most of the time taking pictures of little ones that can wiggle and move and RUN becomes a game of how can we distract you long enough to set up the shot and then make it a game to get you to smile so that I can CLICK, get the picture. Well, this trick worked and it gave me so much joy singing camp songs in the middle of the day! Win – Win. Read More »
Three generations of women met for this portrait session. A baby blessed to a woman who will cherish her every day of her life. A baby who was prayed for when she was just an idea and now her sweet sunshine is here and the joy she gives to others is palpable. Read More »
On Wednesday we did something really special. We took a day off work and met up with Sterling’s sister, brother in law, and our niece and nephew to go to the National Aquarium! Now as a Baltimore native, I love the aquarium but honestly haven’t been in years, since Sterling and I first started dating. What made it the best trip out of all of them was getting to see it for the first time through children’s eyes.Read More »
It’s crazy to think that the last time I saw the Brown family they were welcoming home Elizabeth as a brand new baby! You may remember that session and her gorgeous floral bow! Not to mention Joseph’s camera take over and the cuteness that instilled! This is something I especially love about the milestone package, I get to watch families grow over a year. I can’t get over how much bigger Elizabeth is and how much older Joseph seems! Not to mention seeing Elizabeth grow from a sleepy little infant to a baby with rolls for DAYS! She is ADORABLE! Joseph becomes more and more active with every session we do and it’s so fun. At one point I turned to Lindsey and had to say “so sorry for all the screeching!” as Joseph and I played stormtroopers and I died valiantly as he shot me first. 🙂
So fun. So so so much fun.Read More »
Senior Best Friends Session – Libby Hill Park
Richmond – Virginia
Y’ALL! This past weekend a dream came true in my life! I got to meet (drumroll) THE BABYSITTERS CLUB! All my 90s girls will know EXACTLY why this is so exciting!! Though when I mentioned this to the girls I’m not sure they had heard of it… so, girls – go to the link and watch the movie trailer and you’ll understand. 🙂 So while these girls aren’t actually the babysitters club – they emulate everything fun about that childhood classic! Plus there are 7 of them!Read More »
Yall have been asking for it – waiting for it – excited for it, and now it’s HERE! The May Minis SNEAK PEAK!! Each of these sessions will get their own blog post in the upcoming weeks but for now, I wanted to show off just a taste of how GORGEOUS and fun our sessions were this past weekend.Read More »
PERSONAL | TEACHER TUESDAY
May 7th, 2019
This past week I sat down with my calendar and started mapping out blog posts topics for the next few weeks. I put on the calendar for today: BLOG – TT (meaning Teacher Tuesday blog post) and couldn’t find myself landing on a topic I felt really excited to write about. I flirted with questioning techniques, my favorite apps, or even end of the year activities but then I remembered – it’s National Teacher Appreciation Week! And then I got my wheels turning… I’m used to this week being about being an educator – the deals, the free meals, the jeans days because I am an educator – through and through. But then I got to thinking and decided I wanted to do something a little different with this post. I want to thank all of my teachers – including my students.Read More »
A few weekends ago my family headed down to Bethany Beach, Delaware to celebrate Easter with our 95-year-old grandfather! Yes, 95 and still going strong! He lives down in Bethany and loves having us all over! My Aunt and Uncle headed down on Thursday and then followed soon after by Sterling, me and my siblings – Lindsay, John, and Bradley! Read More »
On Monday we did something so exciting!! I have been looking forward to this moment for MONTHS (18 to be exact). When the time came to hit the submit button I was OVERJOYED because this online click represents a year of changes, struggles, anxiety, pain, joy, and pride. This past Monday we PAID OFF MY CAR!!! We are on our way to financial freedom having paid off almost all our debt (still working on student loans) and I’m thrilled with our progress!
This time last year we were living on one paycheck and felt like we were in a HOLE that we couldn’t get out of. Two humans, two dogs, too high of a rent payment – one paycheck. We were stressed, emotional, trying to keep up with the same lifestyle we had just a few months before and realizing that we needed a change.
The backstory of all of this can be read here: Part 1 & Part 2 but the long and the short of it is that in February/March of last year Sterling left his job. We were left with one paycheck, all the same bills and a rent that was too high for our current status. We also had student loan payments, and credit card payments. We felt totally hopeless.
And then I realized that other families do this all the time, they live off one paycheck and far less than what we have. There were people coming out of debt and finding a manageable lifestyle within their means that I could look to as an example. So I started looking up budget solutions because I felt like there had to be a book or something that could help us figure out how to do this. Then one night we were in Barnes and Nobel and I asked Sterling if we could go to the financial section and SMACK. Right in front of us was Dave Ramsey’s whole collection of books including “The Total Money Makeover – A proven plan for financial fitness“. I thought well geez looks interesting so we sat down in the aisle of Barnes and Nobel and skimmed it.
The book is funny! And honest! And it gave real step by step plans for how to live in our means, get out of debt and save for our future to live like no-one else. I looked to Sterling and said – “I think this could really help us – I think we should buy this, both read it and try his plan”. He was a little hesitant at first because Sterling doesn’t like gimmicks and neither of us was sure if what Dave Ramsey said would really work, but we thought – “Well… it can’t hurt” and we bought the book.
This decision has changed our lives.
I don’t really mean to be dramatic but I seriously know that this book, this plan and this moment in Barnes and Nobel was an answered prayer and one that has changed not only the past year, but our future. Why? Because we have a plan. A plan for how to save, how to use our money down to the penny, how to get out of debt and make money work for us. It hasn’t been perfect but it’s been good. The best, and I mean BEST part about this has been the peace of mind that this has made us feel.
Dave Ramsey’s plan taught us simple little truths and challenged our lifestyle so that we could pay off our wedding ring payment, two credit cards, a $25000 car loan and make long term plans for student loans and retirement. Here’s some basics of how this happened for us but for the whole Dave Ramsey plan I HIGHLY recommend reading his book.
FIRST: We reviewed past statements
The first step for us was going through and looking at old bank statements to see where we were spending money and what things we could cut. This also helped us see where we were wasting money and what kind of budget we needed for things like food. We realized we were spending and wasting a lot of money on eating out and food when we could have been making food at home.
SECOND: We downsized
Soon after starting this path we knew we could not afford our current rent and needed to downsize. So we went to the leasing office and changed our lease over to a one bedroom. Our new tiny (but affordable) space didn’t have enough room for our things so we had to make cuts. We gave away a good 1/3 of our stuff to Goodwill, packed and stored another third in friends and families attics, basements and sheds and moved into a teeny tiny (but affordable) space. This step was hard because we had to change from a lifestyle of saying yes to fun things with friends and things we wanted to only working with things we needed. Our friends were amazing and people who knew the story were really supportive but it was hard explaining our choices to people on the periphery. I actually had someone, after telling them we were downsizing, look at me and go “What are you BROKE or something?!” Ow. If you’re choosing to get financial freedom and make good decisions for your family, these comments might/probably will happen but don’t let it get to you. While last year that comment really hurt my feelings, now I can shrug it off because we’re in a much better place!
THIRD: Mapped out a CASH budget
After we looked at the old statements we sat down with a google spreadsheet and mapped out all the money coming in, all the money that HAD to go out for bills, food etc. and then what was left over. We cut our food budget down to $75 a week which meant we couldn’t eat out like we used to. As per Dave Ramsey’s suggestion, we would sit down together each month and make the budget together with honest conversations about what we needed, wanted and could live without. We took out CASH for each of these budgets and put them in envelopes for each week. This helped a TON because we had to use only that amount of cash and when it was gone – it was gone. We started grocery shopping at discount places like ALDI and Lidl and found that we saved SO MUCH money and the food was just as good! We started seeing that this strict budget was actually not as uncomfortable as we thought and we still had a fine lifestyle – we could have even sacrificed more.
FOURTH: DUMPED into Debt!
All the rest of the money that was left over after our cash budget and bills, we DUMPED into our debt. Last spring when we just had one paycheck had nothing extra and could only pay minimum payments. But when we moved up to Baltimore and transitioned back to two paychecks we kept our same strict budget from before and had a lot left over to dump into debt. This is what helped us pay off our credit cards, ring payments, and our car in just 18 months. When our income shifted back to a higher rate – we could have easily increased our fun but being on the strict Dave Ramsey plan taught us that we really didn’t need to – we still had plenty of fun living in our means while dumping down on our debt. Last year before reading Dave Ramsey’s book – I never would have imagined that we could pay off all this debt so quickly. NEVER. I never would have believed that we had excess to put towards debt. But we did. We just never realized it because we didn’t force ourselves to make sacrifices and live within our means.
So where are we now!? Now we are at a place where we only have student loans left (which we are kind of treating like a mortgage) and are able to save for a down payment for a house one day and any other emergencies that might come up. We feel way more in control over our money and where it’s going in our future. Just the freedom of feeling more in control over our money has made a HUGE difference in our lives. We feel so blessed and are so grateful to be moving forward in the Dave Ramsey plan! We are moving on to baby step 3 and are SO EXCITED!
If you’re in a place like we were last year I highly recommend checking out Dave Ramsey’s resources. The reality is though that there are a lot of resources out there can help. Dave Ramsey really helped us but in all honesty, it was US that had to do the hard work. Just mapping out our budget, telling our money where to go and taking out cash was a huge step forward for us. Then when we started cutting things we didn’t need – it started to change our mindset, we didn’t need all this stuff. Here is a blank copy of the spreadsheet we use to budget – feel free to make a copy of it and adapt it if you want. If it doesn’t make any sense you can always reach out and I’ll explain how I formulated everything – sometimes it takes a little tweaking. 🙂